I’m trying to leave my boyfriend but my mother says it’s ‘hysteria’

The dilemma I’m a 21-year-old student living at home with my parents. My boyfriend and I have been together since the age of 17. For the past year I am certain that I have fallen out of love with him, I never want to be intimate any more and I think we’ve outgrown each other. I’ve tried breaking up with him a few times, but I get teary and swallow my words, or something arises and his familiarity feels safe. We plan to go travelling to southeast Asia this summer. We’ve been talking about it for a while and savings have been put away. I’ve tried turning to my mother for advice, but when I wanted to break up last Easter, she told me I couldn’t because it was the final term of uni and it would disrupt his exam revision. This time, she says it would be cruel because he’s been planning the trip. She labels the times I have mentioned something is not quite right as “hysteria”. The situation is upsetting and my indecisiveness is a monster, but my mother telling me to carry on as normal for his sake leaves me confused.

Mariella replies No wonder. Truth be told we parents don’t always get it right. We’re also pretty bad at admitting it when we make mistakes… or is that just me? Anyway, I’m already digressing. This is not about your parents and nor should it be. I’m not sure why your mother is so committed to you remaining with your boyfriend, but I’m pretty sure she’s got it wrong.

There’s certain to be comfort for her in knowing that you are in a functional relationship with a decent guy, but her sense of security can’t be what dictates your choices. Then again, you are not making it any easier for her. If you’re endlessly revisiting the topic and being indecisive about what you should do there’s every reason for her to think that you remain undecided. Are you? It’s certainly not the impression I’m getting from your letter.

There’s also going to be an element of wish fulfilment for her in keeping you together right now. I know if my daughter was heading off around southeast Asia I’d be delighted if she had a nice boyfriend in tow. But the feelings you’ve described offer little room for ambiguity or indeed censure and there’s not a whiff of hysteria about them to my mind.

There’s nobody who can answer to your feelings for this man, or absence of them, other than you. If your relationship has evolved into a friendship, there’s no benefit in continuing to string him along. You’re just perpetuating the misery for both of you. Of course he’ll be upset, but sparing someone’s feelings is never a good reason to stay in a relationship. There are kind ways to let a lover down and from what you’ve said here you would do better to work on a gentle explanation that allows you both to walk away with dignity, rather than endlessly revisiting the question of whether or not you should be splitting up in the first place.

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North Cyprus students arrested for robbing 15 houses and 5 shops in Girne

About Eight Zimbabwe students have been arrested in connection with robbery / theft of some goods or items including laptops, stereos, cash and other electronic gadgets. The Girne Police are investigating to ascertain the exact number of operations they have carried out around Girne and other areas in Cyprus.

They were made to appear before the Girne criminal court to answer to charges related to burglary, breaking and entry and other heinous charges and the presiding judge asked that they remain in custody for two days while the police gathers more evidence.

Police in a statement said other suspects are still at-large and in no time, they hope to round them up.

Frankly speaking, I still cant believe that in this times and age of advance digital technology and surveillance security camera coverage all-over Cyprus, i am shocked that a group of fearless student can pull such stunts. Wow!  Even a fool should know He/She will be caught.

I salute their courage !   

New marina to be built in the north

A new marina is to be built at Famagusta in the north of the island, it was reported on Tuesday.

According to Turkish Cypriot media reports, authorities announced plans to construct a new marina aimed at attracting more visitors.

‘Minister’ of tourism and environment Fikri Ataoglu said the new marina will be positive for the breakaway state.

Ataoglu said that there was a significant rise in the number of yachts in the Mediterranean, reaching a million, and that new investment areas in France, Spain and Italy which currently hold 75 per cent of the marina capacity in the region was limited.

He also said that rise in pollution, overcrowding and prices in the Western Mediterranean made the north of Cyprus and other regional countries attractive.
The creation of new well-built marinas on a build-operate-transfer model was imperative and very important, he said, to meet rising demand.

Famagusta will open a door to the world with the new marina, Ataoglu said.

The project, according to Ataoglu, was designed as a social-cultural complex by giving particular importance to the needs of the people of Famagusta and the north in general.  Apart from the berthing facilities, a customs office as well as social spaces such as cafes, restaurants and a car park would be included in the project.

There are currently two marinas in the north, one in Kyrenia and one at Yialousa in the Karpas peninsula

Alsancak Council Worker Stabbed to Death

A man was stabbed to death in Alsancak at lunchtime on Tuesday during an argument with his tenants who live on the ground floor of his house.

Memduh Ulugün, 53, who worked for Alsancak council and had returned home for lunch, received six stab wounds to his chest during an argument with his tenants, a married couple Mehmet and Meryem Doğu.

The attack took place in Zeytinlik Sokak, while horrified onlookers were unable to intervene.

They were told to keep away and that this was a matter of honour.

The husband attempted to run away after the incident. However, both husband and wife were arrested. The police had problems dispersing the shocked and angry crowd which had gathered.

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Why women set their wedding dresses on fire

Scorned brides are saying “yes” to trashing the dress. lolzzz. This is interesting .....

It’s become somewhat of a trend for women to destroy their wedding dress after being dumped or mistreated by a husband or fiancé. Kristy Scott is the one of the latest to join this ex-wives’ club.

After discovering her husband cheated on her, the Louisiana woman covered her wedding dress in paint and then set it on fire — just as anyone might want to do after finding out her husband of 16 years was two-timing her with a pal. According to Metro,Scott’s husband had been having a three-month affair with a mutual Facebook friend.

“I wanted to burn the dress, because I couldn’t burn the marriage,” she told Metro. “I got my friend, she had a professional camera, we went down the bayou, on a road, and did my thing.” That is, she covered the gown with pink and purple paint before returning to her friend’s yard, where she set it ablaze. “It was a weight lifted off my shoulders,” she said. “It definitely helped me get through everything.”

How does simply setting a material object on fire mend a broken heart? “They have been burned at the altar and burned in the relationship. It becomes a way to release the anger and hurt they have experienced.

It’s apparently an effective method for moving on, because brides around the world are doing the same. Briana Barksdale, who survived an abusive marriage, recently hosted a “divorce garage sale” to rid herself of the memories from her harrowing relationship. The day’s centerpiece, a fluffy white bridal gown she wore 13 years ago, was not for sale, though.

“This is for every woman who has ever been in a relationship that was abusive, that hurt, that they shouldn’t have stayed in, that they didn’t know how to get out of,” the Houston resident said to news cameras before dousing the displayed dress with gasoline. Surrounded by friends and family, she then sparked a lighter at the hem of the gown in the driveway of her home. “Burn, baby, burn,” the divorcée sang out as the gown burst into flames.

Engaged Teacher Had Sex With 13-Year-Old Female Student From Her School

A teacher was sentenced on Wednesday to three years in prison for sexual battery after she pleaded guilty to having sex with a 13-year-old female student.

Brooke Rosendale was a fifth grade intervention specialist and a girls volleyball and basketball coach at Riverdale School in Ohio. According to an arrest report obtained by PEOPLE, Rosendale had sexual contact with the teen in January and February of 2017. The incidents did not happen on school grounds.

According to the arrest report, Rosendale was not the girl’s teacher, but they had met through the school’s extracurricular programs.

Rosendale, 27, was engaged to her long-term boyfriend when the incidents occurred.

In March 2017, the teen’s parents reported the incidents to the school district. After the Hancock County Sheriff’s Office launched a criminal probe, Rosendale resigned from her position. She has also relinquished her teaching certificate.

Rosendale was initially charged with three counts of sexual battery, a third-degree felony. Under a plea agreement on January 26, she has been found guilty of one count of sexual battery. The other two counts were dropped.

After her release, Rosendale will register as a Tier 3 sex offender and will no longer be able to work with children. She must also pay $225 in restitution to the family of the student.

In court on Wednesday, Rosendale apologized for her actions. The parents of the student appeared in court, but opted not to make a statement to the court.

“I want to apologize to the family,” Rosendale said in court. “I know I hurt them and I apologize.”

Rosendale’s attorney, Peter Halleck, did not immediately return PEOPLE’s call for comment, but he told the court that his client accepted responsibility for what she had done. He said that she was remorseful for her actions.

The presiding judge seemed unmoved by Rosendale’s apology. Hancock County Judge Reginald Routson questioned whether Rosendale fully understood the gravity of her actions. He cited a letter that she had written to the court, which he said indicated that she minimized her responsibility and placed some of the blame on the student.

Steve Helling,People.

Four people seriously injured in Vienna knife attacks

Four people were seriously injured in two knife attacks in one district of the Austrian capital Vienna on Wednesday evening but any motive or connection between the assaults was unclear, a police spokesman said.

The stabbings - the first of which took place at 6.45pm (GMT), occurred in Vienna's Second District, which includes the famous Prater park as well as the Praterstern transport hub. It also houses much of Vienna's small Jewish community.

"A man attacked a family - a father, a mother and their 17-year-old daughter - with a knife. The three people were seriously injured and their lives are in danger," the spokesman said.

"And half an hour later there was another attack ... at Praterstern and here a person was also seriously injured and their life is in danger. We do not know to what extent there is a connection here and any motive remains unclear," he said.

Witness Silvia Franke said she was about 100 metres away when the incident happened.

"I saw how someone in the middle of the street was screaming and shouting - I thought he was beating his dog judging from his hand movements," she said. "And in reality he was stabbing this man."

"He could have stabbed me as well had I been there by chance," Franke said. "He had lost all control." 

Another knife attack shortly afterwards in the same area seriously wounded a 20-year-old Chechen, Mr Maierhofer said, adding a male with Afghan nationality had been arrested.

Officers were investigating whether the two attacks are linked.

Vienna has not experienced deadly attacks by Islamist militant like the ones that have struck Paris, Berlin and Brussels since 2015.